Self-care looks different for everyone. And self-care is hard—it’s the truth. As much as “Take care of yourself!” and “Treat yourself to that fancy coffee!” and “You can’t be the best for your kids if you’re not your best!” is seemingly drilled into us across the internet and social media, I think it’s time to admit that determining what is self care is hard, frustrating, and confusing. I think it’s because what we decide is “self-care” is more dictated to us, saying that self care has to fall in certain buckets. Think: a shower or bath; going to the grocery store by ourselves; buying ourselves that Starbucks; a girls night; spa day. I think you know what I’m talking about…
Recently, I realized that my idea of self-care is both different and much more broad than what social media and influencer affirmations tell me it should be. And that is ok! I actually think it’s healthier for us as moms to do what we need and want to do and define that as our self-care, not what others tell us we should be doing. It is important—so important—to take care of ourselves, but let me give you permission to do it in the way that is best for you, not someone else.
My Personal Self-Care
Not sure what I mean? Here are a few things that I define as my versions of self care:
- Binging television shows: I love a good mindless reality show (I used to be a big The Bachelor franchise fan, but recently it’s been whatever craziness Netflix has like The Ultimatum). I love being able to check-out and just watch something where I don’t have to think too hard. Other DC Area Moms also love a good tv show 🙂
- Going to the office: I know, this is weird! But my husband and I both have the ability to work from home, and our space is tight. It actually soothes me to go into my office and get work done in a space that is mine.
- Walking the dog (without anyone): My dog is my first child, and I like being able to get that extra time with just her. I think she enjoys it too, as her human sibling is now walking and she sometimes she also needs some self care.
- Cleaning: This is another one that might sound like it’s not really self-care to most, but it is to me. Sweeping, doing the dishes, putting away clutter. These activities make me less stressed and give me something to do with my hands.
- Writing for DC Area Moms: It is so nice to sit down and just type. To let my mind start thinking in a different way and let the words flow out.
Some of the above might be stuff you do already but maybe don’t think of them as self-care. Maybe these are the complete opposite of something that relaxes you. The point is that whatever you define as your self-care is self-care. So do what you need to do, mamas!
What’s your favorite way to practice self care? Tell us in the comments!